So you’ve separated – now what?
It might seem completely overwhelming to be separated from your partner. But there are some key steps you need to take to move forward after you decide to separate.
Here are 6 expert tips on what you need to do after you separate, from our knowledgeable team of family lawyers in Perth.
Note Your Separation Date
It’s crucial to make a note of your official separation date.
This is the date that is considered when it comes to applying for your divorce, as you need to prove you have been separated for at least 12 months before you can legally apply for a divorce through the Family Court.
Take Stock Of Your Finances
It isn’t always practical or appropriate to split your finances right away. However, it is a good idea to start gathering financial information and working out what will potentially need to be separated.
Some financial assets you could potentially separate right away are your bank accounts, rental agreements or utility bills.
Of course, sometimes it isn’t possible to begin separating finances, or things can be hard to agree on how to split fairly, so if needed, seek a specialist family law mediator who can help you work out what might be fair to both of you.
Establish A Support Network
Having a strong support network is going to be essential to help you navigate these likely unchartered waters.
Knowing that you can pick up your phone and call a friend or family member when you need someone to fetch the kids from school or simply talk to, will help you cope when you may feel like you need some support.
Find A New Routine
Getting into a new routine as quickly as you can will help you to feel more settled in your new separated circumstances.
If you’re still living together, even small things like who will drop the kids off at school in the mornings, or pay the water bill, or how you’re going to work out your expenses moving forward, will make life a lot easier to deal with.
Give Yourself Time
Be gentle on yourself – separation from a partner is never easy, no matter what the circumstances. There will be challenges and some days might be harder than others.
At these times, don’t be afraid to rely on your support network, but also allow yourself time to experience the various emotions you will undoubtedly feel.
While it’s easy to get stuck in a rut, remember to look forward to your future.
Remember why you are getting divorced in the first place and think about all the positive changes that you want to make in your life, either now or later on down the track.
You can also start thinking about how to put in place some self-care – what makes you happy? Once you figure that out, go out there and do more of it!
At Hickman Family Lawyers, we’re committed to helping our clients get through one of the toughest times of their lives.
When you hire us as your family lawyers in Perth, we’ll guide you through the separation and divorce process and aim to resolve your matters in the shortest time possible.
Book a free 15-minute consultation on our website now.